Honestly, just start a Elfster group. It keeps things super simple and avoids duplicates. My family was skeptical at first, but now everyone is actually pretty happy with it.

^ This. Also, just set a strict 20 dollar limit per kid so you dont go broke. You might want to consider Christmas Wishlist Creator to keep things organized and cheap.

To add to the point above: while digital platforms are convenient, they often alienate the older generation who value the sentiment behind gift-giving. If grandma is traditional, moving to a rigid app might feel like you're stripping away the holiday spirit rather than just organizing it. Instead of forcing everyone into an automated system, you might consider a more manual but structured approach that feels like a collaborative family effort rather than a corporate task. Here are a few ways to manage this without the spreadsheet fatigue:

• Suggest a price ceiling of 25 dollars for individual gifts, which keeps the total cost manageable while still allowing people to pick specific items.
• Organize a group fund for the kids that goes toward one larger, shared item like a trampoline or a gaming console, which cuts down on the pile of random junk.
• Use a physical drawing bowl during your pre-holiday dinner, which maintains the tradition for your grandma while still limiting everyone to buying just one person a gift. Basically, if you frame it as wanting to make the day less stressful so everyone can focus on actually hanging out, people usually jump on board. You dont need software to coordinate things, you just need clear communication early on. It works for most families if you just propose it as a way to prioritize quality time over the stress of shopping for twenty people.